Things have definitely started moving fast since my last post! Sorry for the delay. Here is a quick recap of the past couple of weeks (er, month) since I last wrote...
-Our homestudy went GREAT! We definitely would not have been ready without the help of my mom and dad, so huge shout out to them! We had always heard that they really don't care as much about the HOUSE part of it as they do about the FAMILY part of it, and that was definitely true in our situation too. Our social worker arrived and immediately put us at ease! She was friendly, sweet, and we actually know her brother (small town for ya)! She chatted with the boys for a few minutes, and if you know our Little Guy at all, then you know without me saying that he was bouncing off the wall and very excited to meet someone new and tell her everything she needed to know about him! The cutest part about it was when he introduced his "little buddy, his little brother, Hudson." My parents took the boys and she proceeded to interview both of us together for about 2 hours. Then she did individual interviews with each of us for about 20-30 minutes. Lots of questions about our relationship, our relationships with our extended families, our intentions for adopting, how we plan to talk to our child about his/her adoption, etc. Someday I hope to blog in more detail about that part of it all. At the very end she took a 3 minute tour of the house and asked to see our fire extinguisher. Easy-peasy!
-Our next step was to fill out an Adoption Profile Questionnaire that went into great detail about what and what-not we would be willing to accept in our baby and the situation he/she comes from. This was HARD! We spent a long time one night researching the long term effects of different substance abuse on a baby. There was a long list of substances, ranging from alcohol to cocaine to heroin (and everything in between), and we had to list whether we would be open to the birthmom using those things daily, weekly, or monthly. The next part entailed making decisions on the baby's medical history. Things like depression, schizophrenia, Hepatitis, HIV/AIDS were listed and we had to detail whether we would be open to that from the birthmom and/or birthdad and their extended family. PHEW, lots of emotional toll that night!
-Next up, we had a call with our Adoption Family Specialist who is our go-to-girl from this point out! She just basically needed to make sure she understood what we filled out on the APQ that I just talked about and understood where we had some flexibility. She is the one who will be trying to help us match with a birthmom, so it was very important that she understood us and what we are hoping for with this adoption. At the end of the call she said we wouldn't wait long...
-And then, the NEXT DAY we got an email about a potential match! It really took us by surprise! So now, we wait. We wait to see if this particular birthmom chooses our family to raise her baby. How crazy is that?! Will you pray for her? What a big decision to make!
-In the midst of waiting, we are still working on putting together a family profile which consists of pictures and letters to show to other potential birth families. It is kind of a weird thing to wrestle with. We want to show who we really are and pray that who we are strikes a chord with the perfect birthmom out there. And ultimately, we trust that God knows the exact details of this story, so we rest in the truth of that!
Thanks for catching up with us! Continue to pray that the paperwork falls into place, that the perfect birth family sees our profile, and that the money needed to continue the process comes in at exactly the right time!
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